It was as some will say, the early days of the Internet. Email was then spelled E-mail. Modems and tube monitors were everywhere. Phones could hardly text.
Delaware is an island in the greater metropolitan business community. Looking for work in Delaware amounts to searching the “greater Philadelphia market”. Finding great employment near home was my goal. I responded to an advertisement from a known up-and-coming Internet provider in the Delaware market. It was a local company. It made my day. But before I arrived at my interview, I had a plan. I saw everything in my mind. I had been researching this market for months.
The company was called The Magnetic Page, or MagPage for short. I wasn’t excited by the name, but the name did separate them from the rest of the landscape where most every name include Earth, Globe, Net, or Fast.
What mattered most was the nascent industry this company was a part of. They were babes in the woods. I arrived in a suit and tie. My interviewer and prospective superior had on tattered jeans. He wore no shoes. He even propped them up on his desk from time-to-time. It was quite a sight.
How to Prepare For a Trail Race Event like Tough Mudder, Spartan Race or Warrior Dash
Endurance obstacle course events have become popular. Most endurance runs add in the element of mud if for no other reason than to create a light-hearted fun atmosphere. Endurance runs on a whole are about running stamina, however, mud runs such as Warrior Dash are only mud runs and contain no obstacles. If you are asking yourself, “What’s the difference between the Tough Mudder (untimed event), Warrior Dash (timed event) or Spartan Race (timed event)?” The answer is very little. They are all obstacle course events with Tough Mudder being the longest on average and largest. With many races and runs out there you should be sure you know what type of trail race you are entering. Is it a mud run or an obstacle course?
Is Being A Jerk Cause for Job Loss?
Social Justice. It’s a modern term but has been around since time has begun. It’s been social commentary fodder for books marking its place in time. Think The Scarlet Letter, published in 1850. The term mob rules and vigilante justice are forms of social justice. How often are those terms associated with the moral high ground?
Social Justice in 2018 has reached a point where it has potentially become unbalanced in how the accused are punished.
We are speaking of how men or anyone is punished for their civil behavior and societal transgressions when their behavior has not crossed the line into a criminal act.
The Me Too movement began as a good thing. It rooted out horrible men that used power over women. It’s wrong, no one should deny that. Since Me Too’s inception in 2017 it has spawned a new type of social justice, that is making the act of being a jerk cause for extreme punishment.
Years ago I read a book The Fifth Discipline by Peter Senge — actually I listened to it, many times. It was about thinking in totality, seeing things from a distant view, or top-down view where an installed system that is successful can be self-sustaining. While the book does, in fact, expand on feedback loops being influenced by interconnected outside forces, my article focuses on two of the lessons I learned from the book I’ve applied to personal life.
I like to give back so today I want to explain systems thinking in regards to my life and my children’s lives so that you may apply it to your own.
The book The Fifth Discipline is not just about simple systems perspective, but that is what we will focus from here out.
File this under helpful advice in understanding life. It’s about a modern day adage of sorts.
There are many sayings in life. Some become hackneyed expressions, while others hold deep meaning. One saying I’ve learned years ago has become one that came back to me time and again to teach me a lot about life. It’s about being yourself or being true to yourself, and yet it goes beyond living life on your terms. The saying is:
Your audience finds you.
I first heard it as advice when I was the front for a local Delaware band. We were making the rounds with radio stations pushing for airplay. Who I heard it from, I do not recall. It wasn’t something profound when I first heard it. It was just one of those… “Yeah you’re right” moments of acknowledgment. I believe it was a fellow musician from a band that mentored ours.
Our conversation started with me explaining our band’s sound. I was defining how I sing, I was explaining we had two guitarists that traded off lead guitar solos and how that gave us more than one flavor. In response, I was told, “Your audience finds you.” Its meaning was clear right away. We didn’t need to worry if people would like us, the people that did like us would appreciate us and become our fans. Our audience would find us. And that story — a seed in time, grew inside me.
Over the years I recall that analysis and observation about how the music industry works. It applied to business. Many folks had these crazy ideas for usable web sites, from gaming forums to odds bettors, and even bonsai tree enthusiasts. I remembered to myself and assured people with their idea, “Your audience will find you.”
There came a point in time I gave that advice to myself; about love. I realized that I was a unique guy lost in an obscure part of the world where someone such as myself couldn’t stand out. More than that, I was never interested in being tough and strong. I was a paradox. I became insensitive and outwardly uncaring but genuinely sensitive, only I had to get to know you first. I wasn’t special. I just wanted to believe I was because my mother raised me to believe I was.
My foolish and far too romantic side made it hard for me to get the right woman to strike up immediate interest. I was …an acquired taste. 🙂 I said to myself, “Don’ t worry Lars, your audience will find you.” I knew that a woman that had similar interests would one day cross my path — Oh, and she never did. I eventually forced myself to accept others. Until that day came, I believed I could just be everywhere at once hoping to put myself in the right woman’s path. Again, a foolish boy thinking he was a man.
Of course that is why I wrote the song Forced Fate. Those two words in terms of love mean you can’t make a woman love you, but you can put yourself in her path to find you. My theory seemed so possible. Wow, could I spin my own lie and live it. You can force fate to some degree. Yes I know, those two words — forced fate are somewhat paradoxical. Forcing fate is something I’ve been at for some time. I knew I’d never sing in a band if I didn’t go after it. The mind moves towards what it sees. I knew that if I wanted to play football, I’d have to try while I still had my youth. I did that very thing at the age of 27. It was never too late. And the people that played in my band and played football… were like me. We had the same outlook on life and the same energy and will to achieve.
In life, your audience will find you. The people that share a common interest find each other. People that love alike, people that hate alike. People that have strong family values, people that have no interest in a family; the different types of people there find each other. Followers follow and leaders lead, but they share characteristics that are alike.
When we dress it is an expression of our values, our interests and more. We find ourselves attracted to people that dress in a manner in which we agree, even if it’s uniquely different than our self — even if it seems diametrical. We find each other based on being alike deep inside, and sometimes on the surface. Of course, clothes alone don’t define a person but it is a starting point. As we open up to learn about the people we meet we draw closer to those that share our interests.
Perhaps my underlying message here is – be yourself and those that are like you will like you most for the real you. No matter what it is. May your audience find you.
What is it that we all yearn for in our lives?
The answer? Control.
We are all just one breath away from losing everything, from our health and jobs to love. Life is fragile, we long to control our destiny. As for money, we try and earn money to ensure our future, to give us control over the future.
Many of us we can’t let go of the need for control. And why should we?
We all have an agenda. We live our lives by our needs and desires. Morality plays some part for some of us, while for others — getting from point A. to point B. has no rules.
All of these lives are points in time crossing each other affecting the control of others over one another destiny. A car crash could mean a loved one won’t come home today. A heart attack could leave the breadwinner of a family out of work affecting everyone, opening a path for someone else.
In my life — I admit I cannot control everything.
You can’t make a woman love you but you can put yourself in her path to find you. In that, you force fate.
While I work for survival, I don’t allow the lack of control in some areas to affect the happiness I seek.
We all look to the future with very little true consideration. Some of us have well laid out plans. Some of us have an agenda playing everyone as mere pawns.
But in the end, the future has the last laugh.
You may be asking, why do you call yourself DangerMan? That is a very good question. I have an answer. In short, DangerMan is an unintentional moniker.
Here is the story behind it.
Years ago I began a YouTube channel with the intention of helping others by producing HOW TO videos. I wanted the privacy of Lars Hindsley kept intact. Since my videos were of an active life, the name DangerMan worked. So where did I get the name DangerMan? I borrowed this name from a novel of my own creation, Aeroplane City. You can read part of it for free if you like at AeroplaneCity.com.
Of course many years later, Lars Hindsley has become synonymous for many with DangerMan. It’s a name I reluctantly adopted as a suitable alternative to Lars. After all, I like my name Lars, which is by the way not a nickname for Lawrence. It’s Scandinavian of course but the nickname for Lars is Lasse. Ironic that a nickname is longer than a given name.
You may call me DangerMan. Many do. From the world of video games, inline skating and of course paintball, it’s a name I’ve learned to appreciate and love. To enjoy my videos, please visit YouTube.com/DangerManXX. While I don’t have the username of DangerMan, mine is DangerManXX, I am fortunate enough to be the most popular DangerMan on YouTube. I trust one day the character I’ve created from Aeroplane City will be the DangerMan everyone best knows and enjoys. I believe that.